We're constantly dealing with difficult issues in our great sport of wrestling that are based upon different interpretations of rules and opinions along the lines of strategies, illegal holds and various aspects of how to make our sport safer, more exciting and a myriad of important, yet fairly benign issues. One issue that will continue to develop difficult situations is the allowance of females participating with and against males. I'll go on record now stating that being politically correct doesn't really enter my world. That being said, I realize that their are plenty of people who line up on the other side of this issue, good, moral and well intentioned people who want fairness and equal opportunity for the girls. I actually agree with these areas and even help particular females with their wrestling techniques when asked. It's not the issue of females wrestling, it's the difficult issue of them wrestling males. My main concern involves the nature of mankind and the inevitable temptations and comprimizing situations that these young athletes are placed in. People regularly ask me if I'd let my little girl wrestle when she gets older. I don't know what the future holds but in the current state of youth and high school wrestling, my answer is; absolutely not! If in the future, female youth and high school programs are provided, I'll reevaluate at that time.
Back to the nature of man being the main reason for my stance. I know how men and boys think. Sure, not every man (boy) struggles to the same degree with the same issues, but God has created us with certain appetites, some of which are natural such as eating and drinking. Other appetites are acquired, such as alcohol, drugs, smoking and homosexual behavior. We must be careful which appetites we develop. When awakened, these appetites are extremely difficult to put back to sleep. Having been around and talked with numerous athletes who compete against or train with athletes of the opposite sex, there are continual situations of uncomfortable and even alarmingly innappropriate occurances. Many, if not most, would scoff at the suggestion that they were enjoying or fantasizing about rolling around in different wrestling positions with a person of the opposite sex. Then you add in a very attractive and physically developed female and don't kid yourself. I'm married and devoted to an amazing and beautiful wife and so I choose not to show particular techniques to females. Even as devoted as any of us think we will be, if constantly placed in comprimising positions, our defenses will eventually break down. We may not desire that, but it's ineveitable! The history of man is all the evidence I need to present.
There are plenty of examples of young boys being challenged to do inappropriate things to female athletes either on their teams or in the same competitons. It can be life altering for either or both parties. A young boy whose just begun this very difficult sport, and then has to wrestle a girl who physically, develops quicker at a younger age, and then loses the match to her, has regularly been and will continue to be ridiculed by many of their immature teammates, opponents and even coaches and parents. Can you believe a dad,(usually) would belittle his young, developing son for losing to a girl? It has and will continue to negatively affect these young boys developing their masculinity. Some young boys have even left our sport because of these situations. Many young girls have been thrust into physical scenarios where they're preasured to experiment far quicker than our sexually demented society already preasures them. The driving temptation to be accepted at any cost, can cause any of us to step over lines that wouldn't be as difficult had we not been placed there at such a young and immature age. Some girls who don't experience much success with relationships with the opposite sex for whatever reasons, can be placed into difficult situations where they feel preasure to do things they think will win them acceptance. There aren't too many positive scenarios that come from this whole subject. I'm sure some of you reading this would beg to differ and be more than willing to sight numerous examples of positive outcomes of males and females competing. It's not that good things couldn't happen, it's simply that far, far more bad things continue to happen because of how God has wired us. Yup, I said it. "God". Remember, this is a CHRISTIAN website and God and His Word are my ultimate authority. Plus, even if you don't happen to believe in God or the inerrency of His Word, the Bible, the examples I've sighted are still true and devastating to many young athletes.
I won't discuss the inequality of males not being given the same opportunities in female sports when not offered for males, because equality is simply the phrase they use. It's really not their true goal, if it were then they wouldn't and couldn't argue against males competing on the H.S girls volleyball team because schools don't offer a male volleyball team. There's an agenda and it's working and the outcome is not good!
I welcome any questions and discussion concerning this or other difficult issues. I promise to be honest and forthright with answers that will reflect my personally held beliefs of what I believe God's Word teaches and what will ultimately help develop strong character, integrity and personal growth.